After several days of struggling, I remembered my commitment to the truth. Perhaps I hadn’t done enough to understand the emotions connected with my eating. Clearly I remembered everything I’d been taught in the program. I knew enough to teach their classes. I got it. But it wasn’t enough.
So I redoubled my effort to understand my inner life and started reading three to five books a week. I claimed my inner child, healed the shame that bound me, and was codependent no more. The reading was interesting and evocative but my eating was still out of control.
Each year the...
I expected Chip to feel at least as disgusted with my body as I did. While my body size was not his preference, his love for me never waivered. Instead of rejecting or badgering me to lose weight as I was doing to myself, he was kind, empathetic, compassionate, and curious. As a highly educated professional fitness trainer, he was surprised and intrigued by how easily my body gained weight.
It was as though we were sitting together in a movie theater watching what was happening with my body on the screen. He would objectively point to interesting things in my experience, fascinated and...
Skillful outer support allowed me to deeply enquire into my patterns with food. Each habit revealed a way my false but familiar shape – my ego – did it’s best to support and guide me in the absence of something more loving, true, and real.
Disengaging from negatively judging, comparing, and depriving myself made space for me to find an inner source of guidance that knows what’s truly best for me and shows me the way with love, efficiency, and brilliance.
Enquiring into my willful rebellion with food transformed my self-destruction into true strength, determination,...
It took longer than 10 months and had many ups and downs unlike the consistent, linear way I lost weight on the fast. But I wouldn’t trade the extra time for a quick fix because I now easily maintain my natural weight and never feel like I’m holding a beach ball under water. Having fulfilled my commitment and discovered the truth about my issues with food and weight, I am finally and truly free.
Every single day I feel grateful to be liberated from internal causes of suffering with emotional eating and excess weight.
Now with over 20 years of research and teaching experience on...
The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level
of thinking we were at when we created them.
~ Albert Einstein
The struggle with food and weight is not only a significant source of human suffering; for some it is a matter of life and death. Despite the fact that millions of us have tried for years to fix our problem, we keep finding ourselves stuck in the same places, the same patterns, the same results, and the same thought processes over and over again.
Part of the reason for this is that the Impermanent Approach to Weight Loss ignores the level of thinking we were at...
You and everyone – whether they’ve ever wanted to lose weight or not – knows there are two things a person needs to do if they want to lose weight. You are promised that focusing on these two areas will resolve all your weight issues for good.
What are these two areas? You know them; say them with me.
Diet and exercise. Eat less and exercise more. Right?
Of course. You and everyone who has ever walked through a supermarket checkout stand, watched TV, or read a newspaper knows this is the traditional prescription for weight loss. You hear obesity research reported in the...
We do a bizarre thing with weight loss success in our dieting culture. Yet it’s so common we don’t even realize how crazy it is. Let me use an example to show you what I mean.
Let’s say you walk into a beautiful new custom home. The owner built it himself. You are amazed at the attention to detail, the creativity that went into the design, the expertise in the construction, and that it really feels good to be in this space.
When you meet the owner, the builder of this home, do you excitedly ask him to tell you all about the hammer? Do you say, “I need to see the...
You assume that the most critical thing about you that needs to change is your body. You need to get rid of excess fat. Granted, no longer being obese will require that you release excess weight. Your body will need to change. However, I’ve rarely met anyone who didn’t know how to lose weight and hadn’t done it many times. In fact, most of the women I’ve worked with know enough about diet and exercise to teach their own weight loss programs. Couldn’t you write a book with everything you know about calories, carbs, fats, and proper dieting behavior like chewing...
In the Myth of Mind Over Matter Part 1 we explored the limitations of trying to control our eating and body with a cognitive-only approach. Now let’s look at the invisible system we follow, that’s so familiar and seems so obvious that no one questions it or even names it directly. We assume it’s the right system for the job because everyone follows it, operates from it, and implicitly endorses it as part of the Impermanent Approach to Losing Weight. It’s profoundly ineffective and a major contributor to the Western World’s dismal weight loss statistics.
As...
We are familiar with ourselves. We think, ‘This is me. This is how I am; this is how I’ve always been. This is who I am. I am this person, this body, this history, and these circumstances.’
Have you ever noticed that how you feel about and perceive yourself in the world changes with the wind? Sometimes you feel like a small, needy child. Sometimes like a superior know-it-all. Other times kind and loving. And occasionally (or more than occasionally) you feel like breaking all the rules and being reckless and wild. If this Me is such a sure, solid thing then why does it...
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